First tho - hello - who stole my morning?? I woke up early enough - 7:30 - but suddenly a glance at the clock tells me it's nearly 10:30?! How did that happen??
It's a mystery.
But now onto Brian.
Brian, 4, is our kid who needs a little bit of extra love and attention lately. I firmly believe that most parents of more than one kid go through this - that there are times that each of their kids need a little bit more than the others - that we as parents have to work a little harder with to help them through that particular stage.
That's Brian - right now. He's been prone to tempers lately and lots of frustration - part of it comes just as part of his age, part of it comes from his place in the family, and probably part is just genetics (not my side, certainly)
Whatever it is - he does well when we give him some one on one time.
I took him to the wedding with me on Saturday - just he and I - and he was an absolute joy to be with. He was so excited. A wedding mom! Really! A wedding!!?! ......... Mom.....what's a wedding? DAD! I get to go with mom to a wedding!
And boy - does he talk. He talked the whole half hour there, the whole half hour back and the whole time in between.
Mom - where are we going again?
What did you say?
What's a wedding?
Can I kiss the bride? I like to kiss brides.
What did you say?
Why?
And we get to eat cake?
Why are we going to church, mom?
What did you say?
What did you say?
What did you say?
I get to each ice cream!?!
I like weddings, mom.
What did you say?
Why?
How come?
Can I come with you to another wedding, mom?
What did you say?
What was that called again? A wedding?
heeee - I kissed the bride!
And then home again, after the wedding and a visit to grandpa's......
DAD! DAD!!! I got to go to a wedding!!!!!!
And then the moment was over and he was back to tempers and feuding with his siblings.....but I think he'll be okay in the long run
It's a mystery.
But now onto Brian.
Brian, 4, is our kid who needs a little bit of extra love and attention lately. I firmly believe that most parents of more than one kid go through this - that there are times that each of their kids need a little bit more than the others - that we as parents have to work a little harder with to help them through that particular stage.
That's Brian - right now. He's been prone to tempers lately and lots of frustration - part of it comes just as part of his age, part of it comes from his place in the family, and probably part is just genetics (not my side, certainly)
Whatever it is - he does well when we give him some one on one time.
I took him to the wedding with me on Saturday - just he and I - and he was an absolute joy to be with. He was so excited. A wedding mom! Really! A wedding!!?! ......... Mom.....what's a wedding? DAD! I get to go with mom to a wedding!
And boy - does he talk. He talked the whole half hour there, the whole half hour back and the whole time in between.
Mom - where are we going again?
What did you say?
What's a wedding?
Can I kiss the bride? I like to kiss brides.
What did you say?
Why?
And we get to eat cake?
Why are we going to church, mom?
What did you say?
What did you say?
What did you say?
I get to each ice cream!?!
I like weddings, mom.
What did you say?
Why?
How come?
Can I come with you to another wedding, mom?
What did you say?
What was that called again? A wedding?
heeee - I kissed the bride!
And then home again, after the wedding and a visit to grandpa's......
DAD! DAD!!! I got to go to a wedding!!!!!!
And then the moment was over and he was back to tempers and feuding with his siblings.....but I think he'll be okay in the long run
he is a cutie. I love the "I like to kiss brides" comment.
Posted by: elizabeth | July 28, 2009 at 09:58 AM
what a cutie....when he's not a holy terror....what does it portend that he likes kissing "brides"...not just women, but "brides"
Posted by: Ann Bimberg | July 28, 2009 at 10:17 AM
sounds like a doll to me...proof that your alone time was a huge success! =)
Posted by: Nicole Harper | July 28, 2009 at 10:33 AM
Alone time is definitely needed in our house too! We try to go on dates once a month so each boy gets alone time with each parent.
Posted by: Allison W | July 28, 2009 at 12:12 PM
What a sweet story about that little cutie!!
Posted by: Amy Coose | July 28, 2009 at 12:37 PM
Om Goodness, how cute...love that little interchange...what a fun memory for you...and I bet you were 100% on answering EVERY time he asked...you are so patient! =O)
Posted by: Lara | July 28, 2009 at 12:51 PM
We *try* to do "alone" time with the kids, too. Alas, it doesn't work out as much as we'd like. But the things they have to say on that one on one time:) Priceless. A gift for both of you really. Cute bride kisser you got. heehee. Saw you from a distance there. Had a wonderful chat with George and he mentioned you being his angel. Just thought to tell you that. He's is so special:)
Posted by: amy Isaacson | July 28, 2009 at 02:31 PM
Sharyn,
Shannon is my problem child right now and if I remember correctly, she and Brian are two days apart. She's definitely needing more attention and she's having lots of meltdowns...we've done some one on one time too lately....doesn't cure the problem but it is fun to connect with them one on one.
Posted by: Becca | July 28, 2009 at 03:38 PM
On looking back--my two are 20 and 24--they got extra needy when they were about to go onto a new stage: "grow up" learn to not suck their thumbs, do without blankies, do without naps, etc. These stages were in their own heads..I had no other agendas besides toilet training before kindergarten, learning to read by 6 or 7....they seemed to come programmed with their own milestones....I usually figured it out a few months later......Karen
Posted by: Karen L. Greenfield | July 28, 2009 at 07:41 PM
Sounds like my 4yo. Also, LOVE the quilt you posted a few days ago...one of these days I'll learn/start to quilt....
Posted by: Mary | July 30, 2009 at 11:34 AM